Our local library has a teen volunteer program, where high school students come and help shelve books and lead childrens activities and story time. At the time they were 11, 9 and 7, and I was . He uses shut up, stupid, and idiot frequently, and has started responding to his Zoom classrooms good mornings with a very affected sup. He doesnt really have other social interactions right now, so hes not picking these up from other kids. Discuss this column in the Slate Parenting Facebook group! My wife (26) and I (24) are expecting our first kid. Advice Column Collection. Since hes started to do better with bottles (hes breastfed and previously had been refusing bottles), she agreed (if nervouslyand I did have to make the offer multiple times). As I see it, one possibility of your calling them out on their ugliness to each other and how its affecting you will be a wake-up call. Ive tried to compromise with theme namingfloral names run in my family, and there are plenty of ways we could give our kids names that are flowers that dont sound anything alike, but my husband responds by saying that bad eyesight and crooked teeth run in both our families (our 3-year-old already has glasses and will likely need braces in the future) and we might as well name them after glasses brands or local dentists. At the young age of four, she can be downright stunning. If you need to talk, or if you or someone you know is experiencing suicidal thoughts, text theCrisis Text Lineat 741-741 or call or text 988 to reach theSuicide & Crisis Lifeline. And other than supporting my husband, is there anything else I can do? Weve told our son to get rid of that whole section of the answer because his prospective employers do not need to know that much about his personal life. As a former suicide survivor, this triggers some powerful emotions in me. A wave of claustrophobia closed in on him. Americas Strangest Household Obsession Is Roaring Back. It Was Surreal to Accept It. The hard part is informing them that after this is over, youre done with being their financial and emotional savior. Dont make it your problem. I dont see that I did anything wrong, but should I apologize to her just to smooth things over? Whether or not her mom overindulges her, wanting to pick which college she goes to and where she lives hardly makes your daughter a spoiled brat. This is something that should be shared on her terms and nobody elses. My therapist thought I had some depression and I think she was right. Even if you dont see any red flags other than what you outlined here, it wouldnt hurt to have her speak with a therapist. They've tried counseling and nothing seems to work. Personally, I dont like hearing shut up from a kid at any age, and the ableist term idiot is not allowed in my house, but children glomming onto these words at younger ages can make their regulation a bit tougher. Now youve moved from nice guy status to pushover with no end in sight. When they got home, they were apologetic that he hadnt gone to sleep the way he usually does by that time, and I said he was probably a little hungry because he had only had half of his first bottle and hadnt taken the second. Ask our columnists a question here! This should ideally be a conversation, not a lecture or an argument. You dont say much about Daisys father, which seems curious to meI cant figure out how he fits into these conversations about Daisys reluctance to spend time with her mother, what his relationship with his daughter is like, or what he has to say about his exs relationship with their daughter before the Solomonic splitting of herbut he needs to be brought into the conversation now. Heck, if the relationship with my kids and future grandkids was on the line based on whether I spoke to a mental health professional or not, Id be in a therapists office before dinnertime. Dear Care and. There is absolutely nothing wrong with a kid receiving innocuous compliments about her good looks, because positive reinforcement of any kind usually yields positive results. My Daughter-in-Law Is Blowing Up Over the Tiniest Little Thing. I do want to point out, in regard to the idea of specialness, that in many families in which English is the language spoken at home, the grandmothers are called Grandma X and Grandma Y, or Nana X and Nana Y, without issue. I have a large family. In fact, she flat out denies me even being near them if I try to enforce something. Some new parents have no trouble leaving their infants with a grandparent or other trusted sitter; some hate to leave them, no matter who is available to care for them.) Im positive Kaylie doesnt know about this, and my husband says Im overreactingthat hes just watched too many TV shows and movies in which true love is part of the plot, and is also probably just lonely, what with living life online. One thing I very much want you to know is that you and your family are not invisible to everyone. Care and Feeding is Slate's parenting advice column. From now on Nelson's Column only existed in his mind. Your baby is HUGE! Uh, No Thanks. I will tell you that if I were your 35-year-old and Id said, Ive got to go now or Ill be late for work, but Ill call you this weekend, OK? and you said, No, lets just wait until I call you in two weeks, I would have been hurt. Co-host of Slate's "Mom and Dad Are Fighting" podcast, and he co-writes Slate's "Care and Feeding" advice column. The other is a private college 45 minutes away. I dont know where asking for privacy comes from (is this something he hears you or others say, which he may be imitating? If he asks you to put on a pair of gloves, dont worry so much about being neutral. Just say I dont want to/need to put on gloves right now and go about your business. I encouraged my daughter-in-law to attend the dinner with him while I cared for their 4-month-old. How can I support Slate so I can keep reading all the advice from Dear Prudence, Care and Feeding, Ask a Teacher, and How to Do It? But if your confronting them goes nowhere, take heart: Youve got only four years left of living in this battleground. Dear Care and Feeding, I have a 14-year-old son, "Charlie.". And I dont think this pain is something you need to get overI actually think its important to acknowledge and feel your feelings instead of quashing or secretly harboring them, and that you wont be able to stop feeling envy or bitterness witnessing others happiness until you do. Have a question for Care and Feeding? My wife feels strongly that this is a kind of appropriation, and that this title should be something special for my mother. Sometimes people who are hurting arent their best selves? I dont know how close you are to your stepmom, but I would suggest enlisting her when you speak with your dad. Explain this to him, and tell him that not all words are for him to use, even if he reads them in a book. If she doesnt feel comfortable coming out to you, then its clear that shes not ready for the world to know yet, either. She took the baby and left the room to feed him. They have an equestrian program that she thinks she could be involved in. Photo illustration by Slate. There are two new voices behind Care and Feeding, Slate's parenting advice column, who are going to offer a wide range of guidance to curious and concerned parents. WhichI am just guessing heremight also be the case. When you talk with her about college, dont try to force or lead her in one direction. I dont have any resentment but I do have a lot of hard knocks now. Or dinosaurs. Edgy content focused on teens and kids can easily cause trouble. Have a question for Care and Feeding? I have given this advice before to others: I would give your daughter three to six months to find a job and a place to stay, or else youll have to throw them out. We received pitying text messages and notes of condolence. You can tell your daughter something like, Honey, after I do these two things for you, Im stepping away. It Didnt Go As Planned. How a Bizarre Swedish Docuseries About Men Parenting Tore the Country Apart. Your house, your kids, your rulesyour MIL can treat all your children with basic decency, or she shouldnt be sharing a roof with them. Help us keep giving the advice you crave every week. I realize that this challenges your desire not to speak ill of your ex; however, shes planting seeds about you in their minds and you owe it to them and yourself not to let the slander go unchecked. Even if your MIL were right about him needing more help or support, the course would then be for her to discuss this calmly and respectfully with you, not try to intimidate him into being whatever her version of an ideal 5-year-old is. I can be too much too, so my heart goes out to you. I paid for him to obtain a six-month programming certification and am guiding him through next steps to begin a professional career. I dont know what her inappropriate discipline looks like, but if she has ever struck your 5-year-old, of course you shouldnt allow her to be around him. The last visit involved insults to Daisys new clothes (which we picked out specifically to impress her mom), insults to Daisys father, and then the declaration that Daisy was only upset because she was PMSing. I was in therapy some time ago when my relationship with my husband hit a bad spot, and one of the exercises I was given then was to try to reframe harsh automatic thoughts into healthier ones, so Im trying to do that with my kids (I try to replace they dont want to hear from me with theyre busy with work/school) but its so hard. Maybe start with, Dad, I love you very much, but I have to be honest with you. Dear Care and. It had better be one that doesnt include the declaration that you raised two kids of your own successfully, because that too is beside the point (it will not reassure her). How do I get my parents to divorce? I cant speak to your relationship with your husband because youve said little about it. How Do I Get Them to Back Off? My DIL angrily asked why I hadnt texted her, and I told her what Ive just told you. My children (10, 8, 6, and 5) have been attending school virtually since March. Including the parenting and rules I have for her children. Go find your husband and make sure hes sitting down with you while you read this. Answer: Join Slate Plus. My mother-in-law moved in with us in August, for the foreseeable future, and my partner and I have noticed that she treats the 5-year-old differently than she did the others at the same age, especially when it comes to discipline. Dear Care and. Explain that you know its difficult for them to hear these things about you and that you dont want them to be caught in the drama between you and your ex, but that you have no choice but to defend yourself. And you should project yourself right out of this equation. As a baseline, lets stop comparing our relationships to our kids with anyone elses. No, Im sorry. Perhaps in the future you might say something to the effect of Whatever works for you! My husband runs his own business and works crazy hours. The point is that this wasnt your call to make. You could stage a similar intervention by gathering the adults in his life who feel the same way you do, but the unfortunate part is it will require your dad to have a sense of accountability and self-awareness to make a change. Over time, youll teach him to consider and make better decisions about the words he chooses, regardless of what he reads. Care and Feeding is Slates parenting advice column. Ive heard testimony from numerous twins that this is not a good idea because it makes it harder for them to create an identity. She does, however, like to sneak snacks. Do whatever you can not to insert yourself into it. And how do we support him as he struggles? When you talk with your son, I would explicitly name the problem with the language, as opposed to focusing on the books: Ordering someone to shut up is rude; stupid and idiot are words that can really hurt people. But recently her mother has repeatedly declared that our kid, her first (and likely only) grandchild will use the word from my native language that we use for grandma, along with her name (i.e., Grandma X). You and your husband need to make the most out of your lives, and I trust that you can do it.. My ex and I used to have a co-parenting agreement in which we both agreed to bring any parenting concerns directly to the other co-parent, but she never really followed that. Your letter was largely about other considerations, thoughnamely, your own wants and opinionsso lets focus on the lede you semi-buried here: Your own college experience wasnt what you hoped it would be. Dear Care and Feeding, My daughter is beautiful. Photo illustration by Slate. Slate is published by The Slate Group, a Graham Holdings Company. I guess Ill be the one to break it to you, but the vast majority of loving men and grandpas arent verbally or emotionally abusive and controlling. When we spend so much of our time online, we're bound to learn something while clicking and scrolling . by . All rights reserved. 10. His reaction varies if his request is granted. You know she loves you, dont you? I have a 3-year-old who is obsessed with gloves. My son recently received an award at work, which was presented at a dinner. 87 Years After Nazis Stole My Grandfathers Citizenship, Germany Had an Offer for Me. Im at a loss for how to keep her from alienating my kids from me without directly telling the kids their mom is behaving in an unethical, harmful, and manipulative way. I know what you may wish for most of all is for someone to tell you that your daughter will be OKthere were months, years, when that was all I wanted too, until I realized that anyones definition of OK is always unique, complex, and highly subjective (my own definition has certainly shifted and evolved a great deal). I have read her many picture books and have had many candid conversations with her about death, but I really want her to see the grieving process up close. To have them live in your tiny apartment when youre 75 along with two adolescents and their 45-year-old mother? I know families have trouble with names all the time, but Ive never heard of a situation like ours. If you missed Mondays column,read it here. Discuss this column in theSlate Parenting Facebook group! I have met this friend-of-a-friend at a few parties, but we have never been very close, and I have never interacted with the brother. We have tried instilling the fact that her inside beauty is more important than the outside. Slate, which launched its first advicecolumn, Dear Prudence, in 1997, has seen notable traffic around advice and noticed positive upticks in its business' bottom line. If you want to be the one who cares for that child two days a week when his mother goes back to work, youll have to be able to convince her that youll handle things the way she wants them handled, not the way you think is best. They average a screaming match a day, often over completely idiotic stuff like one of them walking too fast for the other to keep up with, or cooking with cheese when the other has a dairy intolerance. How should we prepare him? We have a 3-year-old son, and we love the family name we picked for him. Do you have any tips for how to help him through this? However, my ex clearly does not view it the same way. I cant stand to read baby announcements. Ive asked Ella a few times about whether shes serious when she says these things, and she acts like Im the weird one for worrying that she might actually be suicidal! Care and Feeding Care and Feeding is Slate's parenting advice column. Where do we go from here? Photo illustration by Slate. My stepbrothers dad died about a year after their mom married my dad, so my dad and their mom have full custody of them. Photo illustration by Slate. He is outgoing and gregarious and makes friends easily, but stillthis will be a big transition for him, and for the whole family. If you missed Mondays column,read it here. Discuss this column in theSlate Parenting Facebook group! I let him play with my old, no longer used gloves of all kinds. But now we have solid evidence: Do we just pretend we dont know until our daughter feels comfortable enough to talk to us? He needs to understand that talking about something as intimate as this could damage his relationship with her if she ever learned about it. Have a question for Care and Feeding? Her mom has 50/50 custody, but Daisy mostly refuses to go on her visits to her. Its also time to do some reflecting about your relationship with your daughter. But my son said that for now theyd like some space, and hed like me to apologize to my DIL when we do get together. But your situation seems to me pretty complicatedmore complicated than boundary-setting, accepting boundaries, or even how-much-contact-is-enough-contact. I have an 8-year-old son who is really, really smart but really, really stubborn. Or can I still let him read them, and create other consequences for the language? Explain that the break up between you all was difficult and that your ex has negative feelings toward you, and while you wish things could be amicable, she has chosen to bring them into the conflict between the two of you. Photo by Getty Images Plus. and then ensure she sees a mental health professional immediately. Submit it here or post it in the Slate Parenting Facebook group.. Dear Care and Feeding, My husband and . Even visits to the pediatrician were sad and depressing. slate advice columns care and feeding. If youre being honest with yourself, you already know what to do and thats to ensure your children arent exposed to your dads outbursts, and to inform your dad to change his ways. Of course it never really changed. They attend joint therapy, but her mom doesnt seem to be making any progress. My Ex Wants Us to Vacation Like One, Big, Happy Family. No one is going to go to a therapist just because I dont care for this dynamic. Or (for all you know) they have, to no avail. Its college-selecting time for my 18-year-old. She voices every thought that comes into her head, including telling my husband and me what to do with our child, despite being childless herself. Photo by Getty Images Plus. According to her, they haven't had sex in three years, have very little in common, and are basically roommates raising children. However, she is much stricter with him in what we feel is not an age-appropriate manner, and she doesnt deny treating him differently. Care and Feedingis Slate'sparenting advicecolumn. Parenting advice on boundaries, new grandparents, and marital trouble. The babys mother was anxious about leaving him for an evening. ); some people have contact sporadically. Discuss this column in theSlate Parenting Facebook group! Ill say this as kindly as possible: Assuming she doesnt have any major physical or mental illnesses/disorders, your daughter and her kids have to go. And, I remind you, I am 64 years old. Ask him to use headphones while he works or watches TV or listens to music while you are with your therapist. Let your husband and son spend time with them without you. I have a good relationship with both kids, who are now teenagers, and I know that they take most of what their mom says with a big grain of salt. Shes very patient, kind, and funnyof course he likes her! I hope one day soon you will feel sure that this is doablethat you are actually doing it alreadyand in the meantime, Im sending you every possible good wish. Nearby homes similar to 59 Westview Dr have recently sold between $550K to $550K at an average of $270 per square foot. (Questions may be edited for publication.). Is that enough though? I am a woman of color; my wife is white. Conversation in general isnt easy for me, so I dont enjoy phone calls. He likes gloveslet him play with gloves. But hes been telling us that hes in love with her, like you and Dad. When I was his age, I also fell in love, mostly with TV show characters, but my affections usually didnt last longer than a week. Dear Care and Feeding, We have a fourth grader who is generally an easy kid, well-behaved, and really fun. Sometimes its in response to little things, like a line for the bathroom or a movie she likes being taken off Netflix, other times its a reaction to more major setbacks, like not getting the grade she wants on a test or not making a sports team. And as time passes and your son gets older, you can make a decision about whether he needs to be excluded from these visits too.). ), But keep in mind that your mother may be touchedpleasedrather than upset by your mother-in-laws enthusiastic embrace of this honorific. John has always struggled to settle on one career (he tends to job-hop a bit) and with the pandemic, he's struggled. Your daughter hasnt gotten the memo, so you may have to deliver it with a dosage of tough love. Discuss this column in the Slate Parenting Facebook group! The fact remains that the onus falls upon your dad to get his life in order, and if you can convince him to do that, then everything actually will be OK. Have a question for Care and Feeding? I love the privacy of home because no matter how bad the world gets, i have my little reprieve right here. I really do try to be neutral about the whole thingI dont want him to be ashamed of this quirkbut maybe he is picking up on my own unease about it? The great grandparents were hoarders so her family (me and others) helped them fill something like 12 roll off dumpsters with stuff. When I peek at him, he is just trying them onit may just be a sensory thing. Slate now has four advice columns Care and Feeding, for parenting advice; Dear Prudence, for general relationship/being-a-human questions; How to Do It, for sex advice; and Beast Mode, for advice about pets. I would go so far as to say that they reward her bad behavior. Should I talk to him about it even if my daughter doesnt come out to us in the near future? ), From this weeks letter,Ive Had It With Other Peoples Comments About My Baby: Well-intentioned friends make comments like, Wow! How Do I Get Them to Back Off? She got pregnant, so I swallowed my pride and wholeheartedly accepted Teddy into our now four-person abode. I Despise My In-Laws. Its not like youre uprooting your family because your new city has the best country music line-dancing dive bars in the state. Recently a friend of a friends brother, Morgan, died of cancer. Care and Feeding is Slate's parenting advice column. He had frequent outbursts, consisting of yelling and swearing. Or Scotch tape. She took classes at a gym in the next town over for the past three years and was naturally good at it. Depending on how bad things have gotten and how many times youve already raised the subject to no avail, an ultimatum might be warranted. slate advice column care and feedingrent to own homes mobile alabama. Al, from Monroe, Connecticut "I'm a single dad to three boys, and I have been alone with them for seven years. But where your daughters are concerned, Id suggest you be frank with them about your wish to connect with them. Speaking from experience, I would keep an eye for additional warning signs like isolation, self-harm, disinterest in activities she used to enjoy, etc. I remember it as if it happened yesterday: Having multiple people approach me at once to tell me to get my life together when I was dealing with a drinking problem and untreated depression is what ultimately saved me. Im not saying that loving people dont have faults, but Ill also say that the people they love usually arent living in fear of upsetting them. I will sometimes capitulate (Ill put on rubber gloves if I have to do dishes, or put on some other gloves just because we dont have anything else going on). Have a question for Care and Feeding? Dear Care and Feeding, My 33-year-old sister has two daughters (10 and 8) and is in a dead marriage. My question is, with my small house, and her breaking the rules or maybe better put, contingencies for living here in this tiny, studio apartment-like home, and me turning 65 in 3 months, and her refusal to accept any kind of opinion, or especially discipline for her kids, how obligated am I to give her such a safe, and free I might add, place for them to live? I am intimately familiar with trying to replace she doesnt want to talk to me with shes busy, and I learned a long time agolong before I had a grown-up daughter, back when I was the grown-up daughter and my father wouldnt think twice about sending me the sort of link (if hed known how to send a link) you sent your kidthat if you want to have a good relationship with adult children, you should assume competency and never offer advice unless asked for it. All contents 2023 The Slate Group LLC. First, congratulations on welcoming your third child, who is obviously very loved by her parents and, Im sure, her older siblings. He takes the bus to work, and often finds himself out of breath after walking up the same hill from the bus stop to our house that hes been walking up for 15 years. How do we gently shut this down if it comes down to it? Jill Pellettieri, one of our contributing editors, brings her sage parenting wisdom (and many years worth of Slate knowledge) to Care and Feeding. Have a question for Care and Feeding? I think your depression is casting a shadow over everything and will continue to until you get the help you need and deserve. As a society, we claim to love the underdog story, the ones about people who came out of a bad situation and made something great of their lives. He is constantly saying that he doesnt see the point of some simple task, that its stupid and easy, that he hates it. In other words, I am basically pigeonholed, by default, into all duties as a parent, but with none of the say. 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